I have never had coaching or counselling before. How will I know if reforming trauma coaching can help me?
Your first 60-minute reforming trauma coaching session with me is 100% free. This is so that I can explain to you what the coaching process involves and what changes and benefits you are likely to experience. I find that this helps my clients to make fully informed decisions which enables them to feel more empowered. I also charge by the hour so you free are to come as often or as little as you want without having the pressure of making an upfront commitment of multiple sessions.
I don’t feel comfortable talking to a stranger about my trauma experiences. Do I have to tell you everything about my past?
Whilst knowing a lot about you helps the two of us to create a coaching plan tailored made just for you, I don’t have to know the exact details of your past or trauma experiences in order to assist you. The great thing about trauma treatment approaches such as solution focused coaching for example is that the techniques and skills are aimed at correcting issues affecting you in the present not the past. For example, solution focused coaching aims to build upon the strengths and knowledge that that you already have and looks at finding solutions to problems rather than focusing on the causes of problems.
You mention in your services section that I have to create a coaching contract. I don’t feel comfortable doing this. Is it really necessary?
To be honest the coaching contract is part of the journey that you are taking to overcome the effects of your trauma and heal yourself. By informally agreeing to a coaching contract, you are making a commitment to yourself and learning how to empower and motivate yourself by taking responsibility for your decisions and commitments.
The other thing about coaching contracts is that it focuses on creating personal and professional boundaries. The primary thing about having experienced trauma related to abuse or violence is that your personal boundaries were significantly violated. This can leave survivors of abuse feeling too scared or fearful to create and enforce their personal boundaries towards others. A coaching contract therefore is a great way to start learning how.
How do I know you have my best interests at heart and you’re not just trying to scam me or take advantage of me?
You have every reason to be sceptical of someone who is attempting to assist you with things as intimate and private as your personal experiences, thoughts and emotions. Making the decision to allow someone into your life to assist and support you with these delicate and highly emotional events/experiences takes tremendous courage and a high degree of trust. This is why I am transparent about my qualifications and experiences (all my certificates are posted on reforming trauma coaching’s Facebook page) and involve you in, and seek your permission for, any treatment approaches or techniques I am considering using. Again, by booking sessions by the hour you have the freedom to stop reforming trauma coaching sessions at any time.
Also, I choose to abide by the Australian Counselling Association's code of ethics and practice version 13. You can view a PDF copy of this code of ethics and practice at;
All the treatment approaches you list sound complicated and confusing. How will I know which one is best for me?
Whilst the treatment approaches do require a certain level of education in order to understand fully, they are created based on some very basic underlying themes. For example, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is based on the presumption that there is a connected and mutual relationship between thoughts, emotions and behaviours. So, in simple terms, if you change one, then changes in the other two will occur (i.e., changing your thoughts from negative to positive also changes your emotions and behaviours from negative to positive).
Likewise, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) focuses primarily on learning to regulate emotions through mindfulness training and distress tolerance training.
Solution Focused Therapy, I mentioned earlier, is focused on finding solutions to problems.
Motivational Interviewing (MI) focuses on helping clients find the motivation to overcome their ambivalence and insecurities towards making changes.
The other approaches are all fairly easy to understand as well and I am happy to explain them to you when the time comes.
I am feeling extremely depressed, I am in need of emergency help, I need protection from violence or I am having suicidal thoughts. Are you the right person to talk to?
I am not the right person to talk to in these instances. If you are feeling extremely depressed then perhaps a counsellor or psychiatrist/psychotherapist will be better able to assist you to find a treatment option which is best suited for your needs.
If you are having thoughts of suicide or need protection from immediate danger and violence please seek immediate emergency attention by visiting your local hospital, police or calling your 24hrs emergency hotline.
Emergency: 000 (24hrs)
Lifeline: 13 11 14 (24hrs). Crisis and counselling support.
DVConnect: 1800 811 811 (24hrs). Service for women experiencing domestic violence
Mensline Australia: 1300 78 99 78 (24hrs). Help, support, referrals, and counselling services.
Kids helpline: 1800 55 1800 (24hrs). Free phone counselling.