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Communicating healthy emotional boundaries is crucial for maintaining positive and respectful relationships.

Here are examples of expressing and setting material boundaries in different situations.

Here are examples of expressing and setting intellectual boundaries in various situations.

Here are examples of expressing and setting self-care boundaries in various situations.

Establishing and communicating healthy social boundaries is essential for maintaining balanced and respectful relationships.

Here are examples of expressing and setting sexual boundaries in various situations.

Establishing and communicating healthy communication boundaries is essential for maintaining respectful and effective interactions.

Here are examples of expressing and setting mental boundaries in various situations.

Establishing and communicating healthy time boundaries is crucial for maintaining balance, productivity, and personal well-being.

Here are examples of expressing and setting physical boundaries in various situations.

If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, it's important to seek help immediately from emergency services or a crisis hotline.

In a world that increasingly values mental well-being, the pressure to maintain good mental health has become a ubiquitous aspect of modern life.

The Golem effect occurs when superiors, supervisors or authority figures anticipate low performance from those ‘below’ them.

Cognitive distortions are deemed ‘unhelpful’ because they are exactly that…UNHELPFUL.

If anyone is experiencing domestic or intimate partner violence, please do not hesitate to seek professional help.

A lot of intimate partner conflict arises simply because the couple don’t know or understand enough about each other.

Self-compassion is the antidote to self-criticism and self-hatred.

Loss is an inevitable part of life and we all respond to loss differently depending on our beliefs, values, social expectations, religions, cultures, etc.

The aim therefore is to achieve equality between thoughts and emotions because once they are equal, they are no longer seen as special and they return back to their arbitrary state.

The true self is often referred to by many terms such as ‘authentic self’, ‘original self’ or vulnerable self’. Likewise, the false self is referred to by terms such as ‘fake self’, ‘idealized self’ or ‘superficial self’.

Before committing to any one therapeutic treatment approach, do your research first.

Trauma exists independently of ptsd and can be classified prior to, and separate from, the diagnostic criteria stipulated by the DSM-5.

The second lesson is… the choices, thoughts, feelings, etc that we make in the NOW can and will supersede whatever has occurred in the past.

Rather than experiencing anxiety that they themselves will be abandoned by their parent (or others), they experience anxiety about THEM abandoning their parent (or others).

How can we increase our theory of mind and so improve our mental health?

Self-care plans can be quite complex and highly personalized.

Unhealthy coping skills often ‘match’ how we feel or think during times of stress and distress.

If your partner is receptive to the idea of sharing passwords, what will be the rules and limitations?

Here are some tips which may help you to overcome insecurity within your intimate relationships.

Depression affects an estimated 270 million people worldwide.

The general lack of insight into themselves and others often leads to this feeling of being misunderstood.

The goal of ACT is to help people to create rich and meaningful lives.

Analysis paralysis is the rumination component of decision making.

Do you feel embarrassed or ashamed when you see that someone younger than you has accomplished more in life than you have?

Do you find yourself constantly drawn into conflict, chaos and drama?

Anxiety is a typical response to stress.

It is important for parents, caregivers, teachers and friends to recognise the signs that a child is suffering from mental illness.

No. From the get go it’s an emphatic no.

These questions are designed to encourage thought and insight into how you go about getting your needs met.

Automatic negative thoughts become more powerful the more that they are reinforced.

The vast majority of us would have seen and heard about post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in some form or another.

Object constancy allows you to have healthy whole relations with people.

The term ‘empath’ derives from the term empathy and so relates to a person who is especially aware of the emotions that surround them.

Since we are social creatures the human brain can never develop properly in isolation.

Do you constantly feel like the walking dead going day in and day out with little to no sleep?

Knowing if you are a good friend or not will allow you to appraise your friendships honestly.

Both subsets of codependents willingly become hosts for their parasites.

When a person is exposed to a traumatic event, only they can ever truly know and understand what they went through.

We are never truly immune to manipulation no matter how skilled we think we are in noticing it.

The ABC model is a basic CBT technique which assumes that your beliefs about stress directly affect or influence how you subsequently respond to stress.

Mental health care is just as important as physical health care.

Rather than the traits and behaviours being born out of ‘intention’, ‘malevolence’ or ‘evilness’, ego development theory...

Young girls who are not recognised and diagnosed as having ADHD often grow up confused as to why they are struggling with certain things compared to their female peers.

Researchers are unsure why ADHD is comorbid with many other mental health conditions but they believe that genetics may play a role.

Exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury or sexual violence which must be experienced directly, as a witness, indirectly or vicariously.

Goal setting is a great way to keep ourselves on track and ensure that we stay committed to achieving our successes.

The more outlandish the abuser can make their abuse tactics, the less likely their victim will be believed.

Global depression and anxiety have been on the up and up for a long time. We live in a hyper competitive, hyper comparative world and people are more stressed than ever.

Divergent thinking involves exploring multiple possible solutions from multiple perspectives in order to generate multiple solutions/answers.

These are the mean, insensitive, cruel and derogatory comments, phrases, words or statements that we have internalized from the outside world.

Why are these recently arrived immigrants seemingly more resilient and therefore have better mental health than those who have migrated before them and those who were born and raised in the country?

Wellness is the overall experience of health, happiness and prosperity. Wellness involves proactively practicing and maintaining healthy life habits on a daily basis.

Cluster A personality disorders refers to a specific group of mental health conditions which are characterised by ‘odd’ or ‘eccentric’ thoughts, feelings or behaviours which often leads to social; awkwardness and social withdrawal.

DBT teaches clients that their thoughts are ‘normal’ given their condition, and should therefore be ‘accepted’, however they must engage in change if they wish to improve their standard of living and overcome their challenges, stresses and distresses.

The third virtual space allows a healthy couple to remain independent whilst also being interdependent. The healthy couple can maintain their individual pursuits/interests and personal identity whilst simultaneously sharing pursuits/interests and having a separate and distinct ‘us’ identity.

Some research has suggested that compulsive hoarding may be the result of deficits in executive functioning. Executive functioning is related to flexible thinking, planning, self-monitoring, self-control, working memory, time management, and organization.

Anger is a typical human emotion and it can be viewed in one of two ways. State vs trait anger.

Self-compassion has all of the mental health benefits of self-esteem without any of the down sides (extreme highs or lows - pathologies).

BPD is characterized by intense and prolific fluctuations in mood states (emotional lability), anger, insecurity (stemming from poor self-image coupled with severe abandonment anxiety), impulsiveness and self-harm/suicide.

Psychology is the scientific study of the mind, emotions and behaviour. Psychology aims to describe, explain, predict and change human behaviour, etc. Psychology is not a precise science.

It is important to recognise that the antipsychiatry movement is not totally opposed to psychiatry. The movement does not seek to abolish psychiatry as a whole.

WARNING: The content of this post refers specifically to child abuse and sexual predation of minors and contains reported instances of child abuse which some people may find graphic and disturbing.

Neurodiversity is more than just a ‘fad’ or populist movement created simply to appease the egos of parents who gave birth to ‘challenging’ children. The concept of neurodiversity has solid groundings in science.

Goal setting is an excellent way of removing anxiety and uncertainty. Goal setting helps us to manage stress, and remain calm, resilient and happy, especially when we are under pressure.

Social media has forced modern generations to forcibly ask themselves questions centred around “who am I”? “What makes me special”? “What is my status amongst these 5 billion other people I am exposed to”?

Intimate partner violence is not restricted to heterosexual relationships.

This is how our authentic self should be treated. Regardless of how many times it ‘fails’ us, we must continually provide it with unconditional love and support.

These three examples highlight the relationship between interpretations of traumatic events and the associated emotional/cognitive responses.

So yes, resentment can be problematic but it can also be advantageous. It can teach us quite a lot of useful things.

This is where re-parenting comes in. You have to take control and become the parent to yourself if you wish to improve your distress tolerance and reduce your hypersensitivity to emotions.

The COVID-19 pandemic is unique in a very important way. It forces seclusion and isolation on a scale unheard of before.

Goal setting is a great way of keeping us on track and ensuring that we stay committed to achieving our success.

The goal is not to completely eliminate social anxiety: The goal is to return atypical social anxiety back to its typical form.

Conflict can help to release pent-up frustration: Unaddressed conflict builds up over time and the pressure builds up until the conflict is finally addressed and expressed.

Uncontrolled negative thoughts are parasitic. They are like leeches. They consume and consume and consume but they leave us with nothing but misery and emptiness.

When our self-esteem becomes balanced and healthy across time and across situations, so too will our mental health become balanced and healthy across time and across situations.

The concept of decoded neurofeedback relies upon associating a particular neural pathway pattern with a particular memory.

Researchers have shown that state gratitude is positively correlated with life satisfaction, positive affect and happiness and negatively correlated with depression, negative affect and physical aggression.

We all have challenges in life that we must learn to overcome if we wish to grow, learn and develop. For some people these challenges are much harder to overcome.

we are responsible for our actions, and We are responsible for recognising and taking responsibility for how our actions can potentially INFLUENCE the emotional states of others. This is the basis of empathy.

Loneliness is a distressing feeling that accompanies the perception that one’s social needs are not being met by the quantity or the quality of one’s social relationships.

Invalidation occurs when someone, either intentionally or unintentionally, dismisses, rejects or minimizes our thoughts and feelings. Invalidation implies that our subjective experience is somehow wrong, unimportant or unacceptable.

We generally believe that negative events/stressors cause us to act or feel in certain ways. The reality is, negative events and stressors are neutral, arbitrary events which we as humans give meaning to.