Reforming Trauma Coaching and Counselling.

We cannot always escape stress because anything which occurs in life has the potential to be perceived by us as stressful.

Narcissism, in its simplest form, is the pursuit of attention and validation.

Pregnancy and child birth can send a mothers hormones and emotions rushing.

It is not always easy to give up a job when the workplace suddenly becomes toxic.

For some people, ending relationships with toxic people can be rather difficult.

Do you have a greater appreciation for the rights and needs of others than the rights and needs of yourself?

The theory states that personality can be boiled down to five core factors.

Supporting people through ptsd and trauma can be extremely time consuming and at times frustrating.

WARNING: This article discusses child sexual exploitation and may be discomforting for some readers.

Attachment therapy is a pseudoscientific therapeutic intervention designed to treat children with attachment issues.

Resolving trauma does not mean eliminating trauma. This is why I prefer the phrase ‘REFORMING TRAUMA’.

Cognitive distortions are self-limiting and self-defeating by nature.

Exposure therapy is based on the very simple notion that it is always better to face your fears rather than avoid them.

Dabrowski stated that these ‘lower’ level influences prevented people from reaching the ‘higher’ aspects of the self.

This is where the communication before and after the ‘upset’ moments become extremely important.

Interacting with these kinds of people can be extremely frustrating.

Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of ourselves.

This can range from who earns how much to who spends how much.

It is easy to say that people who cannot love are self-absorbed and, in some ways, that is correct but not fully.

Here are some practical ways to help you as an individual and you and your spouse as a couple manage troublesome in-laws.

Bipolar Disorder refers to a group of related mental health conditions.

Abuse and neglect are extremely common within dysfunctional families.

Internal objects refer to our internal representations of external objects.

Here are some do’s and don’ts of coping with trauma.

Abuse and trauma related support groups which are monitored and supervised properly can provide immense mental health value.

There are a variety of different symptoms related to depression.

Stress is a common life experience which we can never truly escape.

Why do we lie even when society tells us that we shouldn’t?

Somatic symptom disorder is diagnosed when a person hyper-focuses on certain physical symptoms.

Over all though, mental health labels do serve a purpose when they are not attached to people’s personalities and so remain abstract.

Researchers don’t know the exact cause of OCD however...

All of these factors and symptoms combined makes a person much more susceptible to stress.

Finding ways to manage both stress and anxiety is extremely important.

If you do end any relationship permanently, you do not have to stop loving the other person unconditionally.

Shouldn’t the ‘imperfect’ images and videos be the majority and the ‘perfect’ images and videos the minority?

Being diagnosed with any mental health condition is not the same as receiving a terminal diagnosis within the medical profession.

Children and adolescents really are quite resilient and with appropriate help and support they can recover and heal.

The higher a participant’s ACE score was, the higher the chances were that they engaged in high-risk behaviours.

Self-pity is an unbridled obsession with wallowing in the displeasure of oneself and one’s misfortunes.

Ultimately, holding onto negative introjections will always do you more harm than good so they should be rejected outright.

We are all susceptible to anxiety, depression and other mental conditions at some point in our lives.

You cannot escape stressors because anything which occurs in life has the potential to be perceived, by us humans, as stressful.

So, you have imbued an arbitrary stressor with negative significance and you are now suffering from stress?

Research has consistently shown that when it comes to stress, the use of avoidance coping is ineffective.

CBT is one of the most effective mental health approaches available but like anything, it is not the be all to end all.

Global depression and anxiety have been on the up and up for a long time. We live in a hyper competitive, hyper comparative world and people are more stressed than ever.

Divergent thinking involves exploring multiple possible solutions from multiple perspectives in order to generate multiple solutions/answers.

These are the mean, insensitive, cruel and derogatory comments, phrases, words or statements that we have internalized from the outside world.

Why are these recently arrived immigrants seemingly more resilient and therefore have better mental health than those who have migrated before them and those who were born and raised in the country?

Wellness is the overall experience of health, happiness and prosperity. Wellness involves proactively practicing and maintaining healthy life habits on a daily basis.

Cluster A personality disorders refers to a specific group of mental health conditions which are characterised by ‘odd’ or ‘eccentric’ thoughts, feelings or behaviours which often leads to social; awkwardness and social withdrawal.

DBT teaches clients that their thoughts are ‘normal’ given their condition, and should therefore be ‘accepted’, however they must engage in change if they wish to improve their standard of living and overcome their challenges, stresses and distresses.

The third virtual space allows a healthy couple to remain independent whilst also being interdependent. The healthy couple can maintain their individual pursuits/interests and personal identity whilst simultaneously sharing pursuits/interests and having a separate and distinct ‘us’ identity.

Some research has suggested that compulsive hoarding may be the result of deficits in executive functioning. Executive functioning is related to flexible thinking, planning, self-monitoring, self-control, working memory, time management, and organization.

Anger is a typical human emotion and it can be viewed in one of two ways. State vs trait anger.

Self-compassion has all of the mental health benefits of self-esteem without any of the down sides (extreme highs or lows - pathologies).

BPD is characterized by intense and prolific fluctuations in mood states (emotional lability), anger, insecurity (stemming from poor self-image coupled with severe abandonment anxiety), impulsiveness and self-harm/suicide.

Psychology is the scientific study of the mind, emotions and behaviour. Psychology aims to describe, explain, predict and change human behaviour, etc. Psychology is not a precise science.

It is important to recognise that the antipsychiatry movement is not totally opposed to psychiatry. The movement does not seek to abolish psychiatry as a whole.

WARNING: The content of this post refers specifically to child abuse and sexual predation of minors and contains reported instances of child abuse which some people may find graphic and disturbing.

Neurodiversity is more than just a ‘fad’ or populist movement created simply to appease the egos of parents who gave birth to ‘challenging’ children. The concept of neurodiversity has solid groundings in science.

Goal setting is an excellent way of removing anxiety and uncertainty. Goal setting helps us to manage stress, and remain calm, resilient and happy, especially when we are under pressure.

Social media has forced modern generations to forcibly ask themselves questions centred around “who am I”? “What makes me special”? “What is my status amongst these 5 billion other people I am exposed to”?

Intimate partner violence is not restricted to heterosexual relationships.

This is how our authentic self should be treated. Regardless of how many times it ‘fails’ us, we must continually provide it with unconditional love and support.

These three examples highlight the relationship between interpretations of traumatic events and the associated emotional/cognitive responses.

So yes, resentment can be problematic but it can also be advantageous. It can teach us quite a lot of useful things.

This is where re-parenting comes in. You have to take control and become the parent to yourself if you wish to improve your distress tolerance and reduce your hypersensitivity to emotions.

The COVID-19 pandemic is unique in a very important way. It forces seclusion and isolation on a scale unheard of before.

Goal setting is a great way of keeping us on track and ensuring that we stay committed to achieving our success.

The goal is not to completely eliminate social anxiety: The goal is to return atypical social anxiety back to its typical form.

Conflict can help to release pent-up frustration: Unaddressed conflict builds up over time and the pressure builds up until the conflict is finally addressed and expressed.

Uncontrolled negative thoughts are parasitic. They are like leeches. They consume and consume and consume but they leave us with nothing but misery and emptiness.

When our self-esteem becomes balanced and healthy across time and across situations, so too will our mental health become balanced and healthy across time and across situations.

The concept of decoded neurofeedback relies upon associating a particular neural pathway pattern with a particular memory.

Researchers have shown that state gratitude is positively correlated with life satisfaction, positive affect and happiness and negatively correlated with depression, negative affect and physical aggression.

We all have challenges in life that we must learn to overcome if we wish to grow, learn and develop. For some people these challenges are much harder to overcome.

we are responsible for our actions, and We are responsible for recognising and taking responsibility for how our actions can potentially INFLUENCE the emotional states of others. This is the basis of empathy.

Loneliness is a distressing feeling that accompanies the perception that one’s social needs are not being met by the quantity or the quality of one’s social relationships.

Invalidation occurs when someone, either intentionally or unintentionally, dismisses, rejects or minimizes our thoughts and feelings. Invalidation implies that our subjective experience is somehow wrong, unimportant or unacceptable.

We generally believe that negative events/stressors cause us to act or feel in certain ways. The reality is, negative events and stressors are neutral, arbitrary events which we as humans give meaning to.